Coming Of Age | Valentina Cirasola | Designer

This article was published in Electric Press, literary magazine, London. Here is the link:

It feels like yesterday my coming of age, 18 is a magic number. One feels on top of the world, invincible, unbeatable, conquering the world seems easy as it should be at that age, beauty is just blooming, strength is at its best, everything is possible. Kids dream of the day they will become 18 years of age, then that day comes and goes, it lasts one year and it is over. Life after that takes a different meaning.

In the high stratosphere of society, youngsters coming of age, are presented at court, just as in Downton Abbey, when rebellious Lady Rose is presented officially to the King and became a legal adult, that also means the chaperon is no longer needed.

In a less stratified society, youngsters are still presented today to their friends, teachers, family, neighbors, and perhaps to some city dignitaries as it happened to me many moons ago. The mayor of the city was invited to my party. It took place at the “Sail Club” an upscale place for the upper crust and notables of my native city of Bari in Puglia, Italy.

I arrived at the Club in a landau carriage with a horse and a coachman. I was dressed in a long shimmering silver dress my mother made, the kind Hollywood actresses wore, tight at the waist, spaghetti strap at the top with ample décolletage and flared out at the bottom. The dress shaped me like a siren at the shore.
My first dance was with my father, we glided on the dance floor like two leaves in the wind at the sound of Strauss’s Waltz. We opened the dances. The night went on with special food and drinks served by waiters in white gloves and formal livery. My head was muffled, I felt in a precious glass bauble.

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Coming Of Age Key

At one point, during the evening, the Mayor of the city came up to me with a red velvet cushion and presented me with a symbolic key to the city. He declared me officially an adult with all the duties and responsibilities the coming of age brings. It was magical and powerful, it felt important. The Mayor of the city kissed me on the cheek and wished me a good life. I heard someone crying in the background…

Next February, I have been invited to my goddaughter’s coming of age, she will make 18 years of age.
I received the picture of her red dress she will wear on that day for a party in the same “Sail Club” in my hometown, still there, still celebrating so many young women.

I will refrain from showing the beautiful red dress she has selected, perhaps she will want to blog about it, instead, I will show you what I will wear at her party. My outfit is a bit retro. These are my accessories, my dress is red and black, short a bit above the knees, the nylons have a seam in the center back, very 1950’s.

Red Pochette Vernice                                                                                                                                                                            Red Pochette

My father was not royal or a blazoned noble, he was a regular bloke with a regular job, who wanted the best for her daughter and a memorable 18 years old party. He is no longer in this world but the memories are grand.

Let’s enjoy the small things in life, those are the things that make life worth living. Ciao.

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Valentina Cirasola is a trained Fashion and Interior Designer, born in Italy in a family of artists. Style surrounded her since the beginning of her life. Her many years of experience led her to offer consultations in both specializations and now she can remodel homes as well as personal images. She is passionate about colors and encourages her clients to express their individual style in their homes and with the clothes they wear. She produces her own line of clothing and accessories and designs custom outfit for special occasions when her clients requested it. To better help people all over the world, she offers consultations online. She is the author of four books. Get your copy of Valentina’s book on colors: ©RED-A Voyage Into Colors on

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13 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Teagan R. Geneviene
    Jan 25, 2020 @ 01:49:05

    Ah, to have such memories, Valentina. I admit to a little envy. Hugs on the wing!



    • Valentina
      Jan 25, 2020 @ 04:03:06

      When I was growing up only a few birthdays were important, The first year of life, age six school starts, 18 major age, 25 half century, then from 80 on, almost every year, as those are gifts and lucky to be alive. 😀



  2. myhomefoodthatsamore
    Jan 05, 2020 @ 12:52:43

    Nah … my 18th birthday was in boarding school in England but it was special all the same because my friend and her family invited me over for the weekend and they spoiled me rotten. My 20th and 30th birthdays were nothing much either. So I made sure and made up for this ‘lack’ when it came time for my 40th birthday, which was a bit over the top, in the Umbrian town of Spoleto. Lovely. My 50th was even better and even my 60th was pretty cool. Yes, birthdays are an excuse to celebrate life with friends and family especially ‘important’ ones like an 18th. Love your choice of clothes and yes, red is a very auspicious colour. I got married in a red sari ! All the very very best for your niece !!!



    • Valentina
      Jan 05, 2020 @ 22:53:37

      Thank you Josephine for the good wishes, she will like her day. Yes, red for me is a good choice and it will a good auspicious for her life. Red sari as a wedding dress….brava! I love courageous people, I bet you shocked quite a few people.



  3. dgkaye
    Jan 05, 2020 @ 01:52:59

    What a beautiful memory, and a gorgeous retro ensemble for the occasion! 🙂



  4. hafong
    Jan 03, 2020 @ 18:03:25

    I love the colour red which signifies prosperity in my Chinese culture. So I’m loving your photos here. I can’t identify with the coming of age. I’ve no experience of it but it must be wonderful and memorable. My parents are immigrants. I was born in China and came to Canada at age 8. We were poor. I never had birthday parties and such but do not feel the lack for it. For me, the coming of age is now.




    • Valentina
      Jan 03, 2020 @ 22:27:29

      I love red as well, Leung. Coming of age is always a good thing, even at different stages of life, as long it is comfortable to you. I love to hear about your experiences. Thanks for the visit.



  5. robbiesinspiration
    Jan 03, 2020 @ 16:47:18

    A wonderful memory, Valentina. I had a debutantes ball when I was 16 years old. We had to wear white and I remember learning the dance for the event. A wonderful evening.



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